Wednesday, January 07, 2009
60 days
of marriage, that is.
The last two months have been ultra busy for me for two main reasons.
I got married.
I've been transferred to Lagos from Port Harcourt.
In between these two, I don't have a car anymore(I sold it, like I said I would here); I moved all my stuff from my PH apartment to a BQ (boy's quarters - I wonder why it's so called) at my parents place in Lagos where I'm currently squatting with my wife (did I just say wife? and squat?); We are house hunting and I am mobility impaired.
I had no clue that I would be going through all this within this period and frankly, it has been very trying on my relationship with J. I'd be honest, she is the very best I could hope for. Period.
So, I have said nothing about my wedding and honestly do not intend to say much.
It went well with only minor hiccups compared to what I hear about weddings.
Didn't tell her about the honeymoon plans until 3 hrs to the flight which made her really excited.
Dubai was great just like some of you recommended.
Did almost everything. Wild Wadi, Indoor skiing, mini shopping for the wife, swimming in the lovely beaches in the blistering sun, safari (not for weak stomached) etc.
We ended up with barely $5 left in our pockets on our way back to Lagos!
That was November.
December, just before Christmas, I moved back to Lagos with all my PH bachelor pad belongings.
Which was better for J (she works in Lagos), especially as I left her in the BQ all alone in the loving embrace of my parents :P
Ok, I admit a lot of wives would refuse to do that. But she's not them. She's J.
So, we are looking for a decent 2/3 bedroom apartment on the Lagos mainland, with proximity to the island. Anyone know any available ones or contacts?
I'm a husband now.
I wear my wedding band on my right hand.
Wait a minute! 'Shwepps!' I forgot the ring at home!
Truthfully though, there are some things that I miss now that I never thought of.
a) I can't hang out with the boy's on weekends and do nothing but chase or at least ogle at beautiful women. Ok. I can still ogle, but I do that with her. Its more fun. Only one look though.
b) I can't just wake up one day and disappear or take a trip, solo. To wherever. As I please.
c) Being on my own.
d) An emotionless relationship with myself & buddies hours on end with my PS3
To further tell the truth, my life is a whole lot better.
a) I'm a lot neater (not like I was not before)
b) I have my bath every night (sigh)
c) I have great meals!
d) I have someone I can tell almost anything. A best friend.
e) I do things for people that I would never have done before
f) She has gradually taken over buying clothes for me and dresses me with style. Yep.
Notice that this list is longer than the previous.
Yeah, yeah. I know. Just 60 days.
I'll let you know if anything has changed in a year's time.
I expect it to. A sexier wife as evide
I'll put up a link to some pictures for about an hour next Monday morning.
Happy New Year everyone!
P.S. Jarrai, Naijalines and Mizchif, can you send me invites to your blogs? If there are others that have gone VIP too, just generally invite me abeg. Or do I have to beg? My email address is on my complete profile page.
The last two months have been ultra busy for me for two main reasons.
I got married.
I've been transferred to Lagos from Port Harcourt.
In between these two, I don't have a car anymore(I sold it, like I said I would here); I moved all my stuff from my PH apartment to a BQ (boy's quarters - I wonder why it's so called) at my parents place in Lagos where I'm currently squatting with my wife (did I just say wife? and squat?); We are house hunting and I am mobility impaired.
I had no clue that I would be going through all this within this period and frankly, it has been very trying on my relationship with J. I'd be honest, she is the very best I could hope for. Period.
So, I have said nothing about my wedding and honestly do not intend to say much.
It went well with only minor hiccups compared to what I hear about weddings.
Didn't tell her about the honeymoon plans until 3 hrs to the flight which made her really excited.
Dubai was great just like some of you recommended.
Did almost everything. Wild Wadi, Indoor skiing, mini shopping for the wife, swimming in the lovely beaches in the blistering sun, safari (not for weak stomached) etc.
We ended up with barely $5 left in our pockets on our way back to Lagos!
That was November.
December, just before Christmas, I moved back to Lagos with all my PH bachelor pad belongings.
Which was better for J (she works in Lagos), especially as I left her in the BQ all alone in the loving embrace of my parents :P
Ok, I admit a lot of wives would refuse to do that. But she's not them. She's J.
So, we are looking for a decent 2/3 bedroom apartment on the Lagos mainland, with proximity to the island. Anyone know any available ones or contacts?
I'm a husband now.
I wear my wedding band on my right hand.
Wait a minute! 'Shwepps!' I forgot the ring at home!
Truthfully though, there are some things that I miss now that I never thought of.
a) I can't hang out with the boy's on weekends and do nothing but chase or at least ogle at beautiful women. Ok. I can still ogle, but I do that with her. Its more fun. Only one look though.
b) I can't just wake up one day and disappear or take a trip, solo. To wherever. As I please.
c) Being on my own.
d) An emotionless relationship with myself & buddies hours on end with my PS3
To further tell the truth, my life is a whole lot better.
a) I'm a lot neater (not like I was not before)
b) I have my bath every night (sigh)
c) I have great meals!
d) I have someone I can tell almost anything. A best friend.
e) I do things for people that I would never have done before
f) She has gradually taken over buying clothes for me and dresses me with style. Yep.
Notice that this list is longer than the previous.
Yeah, yeah. I know. Just 60 days.
I'll let you know if anything has changed in a year's time.
I expect it to. A sexier wife as evide
I'll put up a link to some pictures for about an hour next Monday morning.
Happy New Year everyone!
P.S. Jarrai, Naijalines and Mizchif, can you send me invites to your blogs? If there are others that have gone VIP too, just generally invite me abeg. Or do I have to beg? My email address is on my complete profile page.
34 comments:
Happy new year to you too!
Inters read about the changes to your life after 'wedding'
Marraige always addds to you...."He that finds a wife...finds a good thing and obtains favour"
Wishing you both a life of bliss together
and goodluck and God speed on getting accomodaiton in Lagos o!
(mainland proximity to the Island...Surulere, gbagada and Yaba areas are your best best)
I really pray God will not let your eyes see the things agents showed me and a lot of people in this Lagos!
Inters read about the changes to your life after 'wedding'
Marraige always addds to you...."He that finds a wife...finds a good thing and obtains favour"
Wishing you both a life of bliss together
and goodluck and God speed on getting accomodaiton in Lagos o!
(mainland proximity to the Island...Surulere, gbagada and Yaba areas are your best best)
I really pray God will not let your eyes see the things agents showed me and a lot of people in this Lagos!
....and he's counting, Nice. sounds like fun- being married in our generation.
I guess it's only a matter of time before you stop missing hanging with the boys.
J sounds sweet....Congratulations.
Pretty interesting blog.
I'll be back.
I guess it's only a matter of time before you stop missing hanging with the boys.
J sounds sweet....Congratulations.
Pretty interesting blog.
I'll be back.
congratulations, dude. you've got one helluva wife there, if she backs you up like that.
but then again, i guess you know that cos you married her ;)
here's wishing you a wonderful start to the most beautiful life ever.
but then again, i guess you know that cos you married her ;)
here's wishing you a wonderful start to the most beautiful life ever.
Happy 2009 to you and wifey!!!
u moved to lagos!!!!!! wow. i ddnt know!!!!!! am in lagos too, crazy city. but den, u r probably more used 2 it dan i am.
Husband used 2 wear his ring on d right hand, till it fell off once. den he transferred it 2 d left hand, but d middle finger. & he does forget 2 wear em. daz y he has me, cos we keep ours together so wen i start wearing mine & i see his, i take it 2 him!
marriage is fun dear. very much fun. can't ask 4 any other thing!!!!
J tried oh. living wit d in-laws no b beans oh. my own inlaws r divine. we stayed nearly 2 weeks wit dem during d holidays. it was a short stay,so it wasn't so bad.actually,it wasn't bad at all.but i wouldn't want 2 do it on a regular basis.
Husband used 2 wear his ring on d right hand, till it fell off once. den he transferred it 2 d left hand, but d middle finger. & he does forget 2 wear em. daz y he has me, cos we keep ours together so wen i start wearing mine & i see his, i take it 2 him!
marriage is fun dear. very much fun. can't ask 4 any other thing!!!!
J tried oh. living wit d in-laws no b beans oh. my own inlaws r divine. we stayed nearly 2 weeks wit dem during d holidays. it was a short stay,so it wasn't so bad.actually,it wasn't bad at all.but i wouldn't want 2 do it on a regular basis.
First time here i think.. Good for you per the marriage thingy.. My "serious" dudes seem to think it made them more responsible.... LOL.. Anyways, having a lovely wife as yours seems to be should trump mindless PS3 games anyday (I still stick to my Football Manager anyways).
Don't worry. . . you'll get used to the ring thing very soon. Wait a minute, I thought wedding bands are worn on the left hand. Anyways its a matter of choice.
Enjoy your great meals and all other benefits of married life!
Once again, happy married life!
Enjoy your great meals and all other benefits of married life!
Once again, happy married life!
I can officially say Happy married life.
Nothing like being with a best friend really. It works better.
I have some agents you can contacts:
Gboyega: 08027182292
Akinwunmi: 08023191914
Bola: 08038021977
Makinde: 08023056214
They don’t know me as Standtall but since I aint disclosing my real name here, you just have to call and mention no link
Nothing like being with a best friend really. It works better.
I have some agents you can contacts:
Gboyega: 08027182292
Akinwunmi: 08023191914
Bola: 08038021977
Makinde: 08023056214
They don’t know me as Standtall but since I aint disclosing my real name here, you just have to call and mention no link
@ standtall: am also going to note down ur contacts, cos we r also looking 4 a new apartment but n d island. do they handle dat area too?
Awwww now u make me want to get married babes....so glad things are going well and you are finally clean!!!
Good food hey...hit the gym mate before you carry the pregnancy...
I really cant imagine living anywhere in naija except for lag...Its the bomb...everything goes...
Good food hey...hit the gym mate before you carry the pregnancy...
I really cant imagine living anywhere in naija except for lag...Its the bomb...everything goes...
Happy married life Tobenna! May it lasts always. I feel you on that best friend business. A best friend, lover, cook, personal shopper, bath-er, driver, cleaner etc etc. Now I want a wife (lol). You have definetely found a good thing.
Happy new year and happy married life mr husband..so glad u had fun in dubai!!
Hope this year blesses u and your wife abundantly :)
I clicked on ur contact details to add u but its not working..maybe its my pc
mail me ur address at jarriatou@gmail.com
welcome bk!
Hope this year blesses u and your wife abundantly :)
I clicked on ur contact details to add u but its not working..maybe its my pc
mail me ur address at jarriatou@gmail.com
welcome bk!
Glad that its been 60days of bliss
but whose counting
heres wishing that 60 days will turn into 60years and it will still be bliss
but whose counting
heres wishing that 60 days will turn into 60years and it will still be bliss
Glad to hear how happy u are.
Best friend, lover, personal chef, proffesional shopper and so much more all rolled into one. Can't wait to be that to some lucky dude someday.
One invite coming ur way as soon as i can find ur email add.
Best friend, lover, personal chef, proffesional shopper and so much more all rolled into one. Can't wait to be that to some lucky dude someday.
One invite coming ur way as soon as i can find ur email add.
Congrats my bruv. Happy nu year!You have found and done a good thing. May you experience all the joy and blessings that come with marriage.
awww this post is so so cute....i just love it for some reason...dunno why
ok..so why do u wear ur ring on your right hand??? ehn?? lol
@abujamaiden..baale, my hubby, hardly ever forgets to wear his wedding band..infact he hardly removes it except to cream his body. maybe he is just an exception. :)
back to u tobenna, happy new year and happy marriage life, wish u many more beautiful years together..and J is understanding o...living in your parents bq..but i guess it goes to show how considerate she is.
ah wait o Monday abi..let me set reminder to come and view pictures on Monday...yikes that is my wedding anniversary! pls leave it on till tuesday now...
ok..so why do u wear ur ring on your right hand??? ehn?? lol
@abujamaiden..baale, my hubby, hardly ever forgets to wear his wedding band..infact he hardly removes it except to cream his body. maybe he is just an exception. :)
back to u tobenna, happy new year and happy marriage life, wish u many more beautiful years together..and J is understanding o...living in your parents bq..but i guess it goes to show how considerate she is.
ah wait o Monday abi..let me set reminder to come and view pictures on Monday...yikes that is my wedding anniversary! pls leave it on till tuesday now...
why your right hand instead of left. of course u wll be so much better off now.
welcome to my city, which unfortunately i have to vacate during the week.
check florishing florida's blog. comments to her latest post has some house agent phone number on.
welcome to my city, which unfortunately i have to vacate during the week.
check florishing florida's blog. comments to her latest post has some house agent phone number on.
O boy, its 60 days already. time flies.
J is such a darling. Give her a big kiss when u get home (I no i dont have to tell u to do so).
wish I could help with the house hunting. Hubby & I struggled to get a place on lag to.
marriage is good, init????
J is such a darling. Give her a big kiss when u get home (I no i dont have to tell u to do so).
wish I could help with the house hunting. Hubby & I struggled to get a place on lag to.
marriage is good, init????
Awwww, that post sounds so true and so cute!
Whoa, you guys did a lot in a short amount of time! Moving is no fun and I am dreading my own move in a year's time. *sigh*
Happy 60th day of marriage and may you find a great apartment soon!
Happy New Year to you!
Whoa, you guys did a lot in a short amount of time! Moving is no fun and I am dreading my own move in a year's time. *sigh*
Happy 60th day of marriage and may you find a great apartment soon!
Happy New Year to you!
First Happy New Year! also Happy 60 days Anniversary!
Ehm, excuse me oh...how do we know what time you put the pix up...seeing as some of us are way behind Naija time. Not fair!!
Congrats on the wedding, nwa nne'm. J is definitely one in a million.
Congrats on the wedding, nwa nne'm. J is definitely one in a million.
Congrats again and I really liked this post. Hope it will encourage my younger brothers to settle down with a good wife...
Happy New Year...
Happy New Year...
congratulations! very soon, u wont even miss the things on the first list!
PS: not telling her about the honeymoon is sooooooo romantic!
PS: not telling her about the honeymoon is sooooooo romantic!
toasting to your 60 days and wishing you at least another 60 years of happy married life with your wife
happy new year
p.s
i don't know how you do lagos without a car...i was there for 3 weeks and i missed the ability to jump in my car and do as i pleased
happy new year
p.s
i don't know how you do lagos without a car...i was there for 3 weeks and i missed the ability to jump in my car and do as i pleased
Wooohooo! Happy new year and Happy married life!
J is absolutely wonderful, so many other women would probably have frowned at alladat. I wish you the best and G'luck with the house hunting.
Keep us posted!
J is absolutely wonderful, so many other women would probably have frowned at alladat. I wish you the best and G'luck with the house hunting.
Keep us posted!
Congratulations!
I thought wedding rings were worn on the left? Or is that just women?
Therapy x
I thought wedding rings were worn on the left? Or is that just women?
Therapy x
alot of newlywed guys have issues with not being able to just get up and take off without keeping wifey posted...so i'm glad ur adjusting well! My dear I am sure she would have agreed to move into the main house sef if there was no other option (esp with such lovely in laws)i know i would do that even after all these years. .She married for love n even if that means a little inconvenience so be it.J is def a gem...so when y'all coming to abuja? I am working on my guest room!
lol!
happy new year and happy married life and happy house hunting. it's the beginning of a lot of new things for u dude...
lol @ bathing every night *wink*, why is that?
so it's monday, pls where is the link?
happy new year and happy married life and happy house hunting. it's the beginning of a lot of new things for u dude...
lol @ bathing every night *wink*, why is that?
so it's monday, pls where is the link?
congrats tobe! welcome to the club!
congrats on ur wedding, nice blog
Tobenna the husband. I missed the pictures. Darn! Lol. I know I'm very late. Congratulations to you and wifey o. very nice list. We women tend to have such effects. lol.
Why dyu wear your wedding band on your right hand? Going European on us? Hope you're good tho. Tk cr.
Why dyu wear your wedding band on your right hand? Going European on us? Hope you're good tho. Tk cr.
LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL @ this post...
im so proud of youuu...60 days is a long time, lol. just kidding! im just catching up on all your posts i havent had time to read. ive been so busy!
im glad to be back
im glad to be back
Congrats and Happy new year and Happy married life!!!