shirak!

It's nice to read someone being honest about what motivates cheating and not justifying it.

I personally just want to know if I'm being played, so I can get out and move on to something better—it's too much work to store up murderous rage over the whole thing.

I hope you never have to deal with The Other Man, and that your fiancée never has to worry that you have another woman.

2nd.

now leme go n read.

I wish the batton was passed to me cos i have a lot to say abt the other man and even the other woman.....but then, maybe i shouldn't risk going down memory lane...there are some depths you never come out of....

lol @ testosterone junkiee.

I like ur honesty.
I pray u never have 2 deal with the other man.
Sha don't go chasing after the other woman.

How is ur babe?

Kai, i am not first.....but nearly...hehehhehe

The other man...yeah he exists allright...

Not cos we want to hurt you guys but we've learnt the hard way not to put all our eggs in one basket..

Is it sexual?? Sometimes.

Are there feelings??? Sometimes.

Is it possible he over throws the main man???? Definately, if the main man doesn't behave...

The other man exists quite alright and sometimes, so does the other woman

i've had other men n my life b4. well not really other men. i was dating around, not committed 2 anyone. so technically, they were all other men. did any of dem mind? i think most tot i was out 2 get my groove on & happily obliged me. one or two wanted it 2 become a relationship, wit no luck. i distrust turning flings 2 blokes. somehow i feel it's a doomed relationship!

kiterunner was a good book..but i prefer his new one! have u tried it??

it sure hurts to know there's another woman
especially when u're givin him 101%
hurt is so hurtful trust me

no matter how much u try
the truth is that
ur heart belongs to only one persif u like spread ur crate of eggs in 24 baskets

u see tobenna..this is why i dig u so much..u are a truth teller!nothing more nothing less...i like the wolves analogy..tho dont be too hard on urself, you seem to have found a person that will tame ur inner wolf..for the most part :)

Agree with GNG this post was filled with honesty regarding "the other man". Having befriended "the other man" once he gave his reason for getting into these types of relationship on his lack of trust of women.

Reflections or you're just trying to make a case for rats? At least you do well small.

I dont know why guys do this but a simple eat cake and have it may explain it. God help all of us.

Great post, I thot u r a chauvinist. Guess am wrong. SO, why have you abandoned my blog?

I like.
Very straightforward and honest.
I pity men but Im going to pull the God card out here and say with God I think self control is possible. I read a blog, where a guy who was previously very sexually active & promiscuous changed dramatically after he formed a strong bond with God. I also have a guy friend who is also strongly bonded to God and is very much in control. But I am not a guy so I cant really say much.

hey my blog boo.
kilon popping?

i'm impressed wit ur honesty, truly i am, but hey i sure wont pity "the other man"

how body?

ah, the wolf I spoke about was not 'the other man' oh. If that where what the wolf was doing, I wouldn't waste my site page on that story, after all, people have a right to have half-hearted relationships, sebi?

Anyway, how your wifey? Greet am for me oh!

Tobenna, (i'm always tempted to shorten ur name to Tobe, just stop myself everytime), u still remain of the most honest guy with these write-ups of yours.

Afro is right, though not always the case, once a guy cant show 100% commitment, there will always be a threat of another guy.

read Aphrodite's issues with X and O, u'll get the picture.

I would love to offer my wedding planning skills 2 u. So holla, sdouble05i@gmail.com or studio5i@yahoo.co.uk.

I Tobenna, got ur comment on mi-blog. Of course u have being there b4. I thot u were a chauvinist as deduced from a lot of your comments on blogvilles. Just my persception. I am still watching out to see if I am right though.

Thanks for stopping by

Well i never thot I'd blog to see the day when another man questions the other man.
Well done!

I really love the honesty in your posts.

Haven't seen you at mine lately.

Hey broda...you've been tagged. I might be too late but hey....
Thanks for stopping by.

xxx

The other man...
I hate to think it's a man why can't it be a woman? maybe like...the other woman? Lol! 'woman' even has a 'man' in it!

Sincere thoughts...

Nice blog!

I agree with Afro all the way. It is, however, refreshing to have an honest male's opinion around here, though the truth sometimes hurts and leaves us more flustered.

Update now. or else...

Hmmm 'wolves' is a fitting term

And.. 'shooting from the hip?' you are implying I was blogging recklessly.

And although I am an anonymous blogger.. Why wouldn't I admit to it in real life? Is it a post to be ashamed of?

Lol...explain it to me por favor

Strong thing!

How come i jus discovered ur blog?We have quite a number of stuff in common!i tried to read all d posts on this page and am sad i got here after u brought down some of ur posts!!
1)i absolutely love jack bauer and 24 but i was scared to say dis so pips wont find out who i am but now av found a partner!am also gettin tired of it now
2)i totally agree with u dat even if my beau has made a commitment to me,he's UNNERVED!!i was passing a comment on his over workin late and he said "isnt it cos of u am workin hard like dis??",waaaaaats dat??he hasnt even proposed.LOL
3)i dont tink my beau really understands half of wat am sayin atimes,he jus agrees and then i go "xplain wat i jus said" and d argument starts.........LOL
4)i went for a job interview recently and if i et the job,my salry will be trippled and my salary will get close to beau's own,no point sweatin it but d tot has crossed my mind
5)I am havn so much fun readin ur posts,we have gone to c d parents already and i would totally love to have sum1 start taoastin me and my beau panicks!!!LOL
6)I attended a "pro unitate" school as well,of course live chicken tastes better than frozen but frozen turkey tastes bettrr than live
7)You are soooooooooooo romantic,my Beau cant pull dat proposal thingy off!!and u say u cant plan???LOL
8)Hmmmmm,and now we get to the other man.i never wanna be d other woman oh and i hope my beau is not the other man sumwhere.particularly cos i jus woke up one morn and i decided celibacy is d way 4ward
9)av had sooo much fun reading some of ur posts,please lemme know when u update again!!!I panicked at the tot of him fndn out about my blog,i shall soooo faint!!!
10)just felt like addin a #10 and dis is a warning for soupasexy,u better not leave blogsville odawise i snatch tobenna from u!!!LOL
I really love having u around!!!
*phew*enuf!!!

This cheating thing happens to the best of us. Both men and women have fallen prey to it. It's a sad, sad case.

I can only pray that my future husband does not have the other woman. Hmmm.

where did my comment go????. hmmm. blogger!!anyways i pray ur wifey doesnt have the other man in her life and u as well. ami oruko jesu (im getting better in yoruba). really like d fact that u r sincere. how u n wifey???

guy, why are you painting in such a bad light, like we are weaklings...wolves is alright but they should keep their pity...very nice blog, simple template

I think I've had a 'the other man' before. Lord have mercy, but thank God it wasn't serious. It was just as a result of boredom.

I really do like your honesty. Truth is women could have the same problem too, but I guess it's easier for them to control cos as someone once said, men think of the here and now, while women think of the future (well, 80% of women do so 50% of the time).

The other man...my friends and I call him UPS - backup in case the main man has a major malfunction, UPS will be there as backup to keep the server going.

It's not a pretty situation but a lot learns have been learnt over the years.

Hmmmmm! The other man syndrome...

Thanks for visiting. But please make u no fear to marry O! It is the best that can happen to you or any other man. LOL!

...interesting...although you guys know good and well what the hell you want...regular ass with the ability to taste others when you desire...along with the biology of it all is definitely some selfishness and narcissism mixed in there...

...as for women, i think its the same although i don't know that we were always that way...i think we're learning from you guys;)...nice post...well done sir...

Which other woman are they all talking about? In my own case I dont even know which one of them is the real one. They are all at the quarter-final stage now maybe the one that wins will be the real one.
Thank you ojare for visiting my blog. C ya.

YES WHY DO U GUYS ALLOW UR SEX DRIVE CONTROL AND DESTROY YOU!

oga..ogini kwanu..update sharply! lol

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yeah the other man is a bitch we all know but its ironic how at one point in our lives we have somehow decided to be the other man. it sucks but it is what it is, no commitments and stuff like that.i feel you bro on the post.
how are you holding up?

oya update...biko...

this is an undiluted honesty ...if there is anything as such...lol

update pls

p.s. I dont think the other man gives a "flying monkeys arse" that he is not number one...he is just a beast!!!

ok, why am i so upset?

thanks for the honesty. I just got over a man who wasnt seru=ious about comitting. It is well. Some men arent willing to admit it though.